Strange facebook experience.

[Simone_m]

I experienced something re. facebook, and I'm wondering if it's just me. Thats my question to you(all.)
It could very well be "just me."

A short while ago, I bailed. Closed my account there. Ever since I was involved, which had been only for about a month, I was not only spending too much time paying attention to that place, to the neglect of
more significant dutys, but I noticed an increasing but creeping depression, which I had not felt in
-years- . Lately, my self esteem was feeling like my bad old daze, when it was very low. Which was a long time ago. Another thing, too, I had been very recently always feeling like on the verge of crying.
But after I -suddenly- without thinking too much about such, "bailed", ---within a couple hours--- I started feeling better as if someone put a morphine injection to me.
right now, ---- I feel ---- relieved.
This thread was not written with any sarcasm in mind, I reported (like a ufo sighting) what I observed.

 

[Anaximander]

Maybe you have been spending too much time around men.

What you are describing sounds normal for a woman: Self-esteem issues after reading facebook/woman's magazines, almost crying but not and then the mood swings - that's all perfectly normal woman stuff.

If you were a man, then we could be alarmed.

 

[tyder001]

Also, remeber that everybody puts the best face on themselves on facebook. Some of us have little family left and are not "back home" and don't talk about cousins by the dozens and all the neat stuff we got. But, remember some of those folks don't actually interact in the real world. They also don't tell you about the fear or the memories or the insecureites. I've seen people post "hey beautiful" I love you to somebody when I happen to know they neither "love" or Know the person all that well they are posting to. Ya gotta take facebook for what it is. I (even though I'm over 50) have been able to re-connect with old classmates and friends and even some cousins I have not seen in years. But, even though it's nice I still realize that in reality we didn't talk that much (if at all) in my youth and we were not "hangin" together everyday. Still, it's nice to reconnect. Just keep it in perspective and you will be fine. Remember, it's up to you and in your control if you want to be on a social network or a forum or anything else. If it help you or entertains you then it's fine. If it causes you stress then it's not.

Peace.

 

[RJHark00]

I don't think that you're strange or unique in your situ, Simone. I used facebook previously to keep up with old friends and to sort of "spy" on old acquaintances. When my wife joined she pretty much "became friends" with everyone in or from the small rural town she grew up in. This was great because when she sees somebody who was a turd in high school who never left town and put on 100 pounds it was cathartic. But then it was depressing to see people seem to have it all together with a beautiful life and kids and vacations in Vail. It's true that people usually on put forth what they want you to see, and I think that women may be especially sensitive to this.

 

[ondafritz]

I don't post at all anymore but I felt I wanted to throw my 2 cents in here.
Could it be that after all of the strange things that have happened to you over the years that maybe you felt too exposed there? Facebook is not all happy and let's get together. In my opinion. Maybe it is better that you shy away from it and those who may use if for nefarious purposes.

My best.

 

[rebar]

Sounds like the emotions of someone experiencing the freedom of having a burden, or a responsibility, removed. It could be that Facebook was consuming time better spent on something else -- and deep down, you knew it. Psychologists are actually studying what they call FAD -- Facebook Addiction Disorder.

 

[Simone_m]

THANK you for all your reply posts, I think every one of you are right on! I truly appreciate such. I am in agreement that men's and women's brains are different. Hardwired/evolved different. Like 2 different races of 'ET's. (Martians and Venusians.)
Yeah, also, I felt too exposed. It was --freaking-- me out! I now days prefer to feel safe and more private, because my whole life was (up until about 2003) UNsafe.
My cats are my audience, and that itself feels -more- than enough already.

I want to tell about another ***even weirder*** experience after I shut this computer off and went nightnight. Soon as I went into REM state, I dreamt like (I --swear-- ) never......dreamt before. Granteed, I have had some lucid dreams in my time. But never like this. It SEEMED like I kept dreaming for the whole entire (about 7 hours) I was asleep. The dream was One Long Movie. Of the same one thing : Everything I did on Facebook. Like it was all un-installing in my brain. I think about when people say they thought they were surely going to die, and their whole life runs before their 'vision'. So I said, "Could their life be un-installing from their memory banks?" Well anyway, while all this was going on in my dream. I kept hearing a voice ask me if I'm sure I want to un-visit that (particular thing) and then what happened is, it showed me, "Look at what your friend is now posting" and, "Are you sure you want to miss out on that?"
Geeeeeeeez. Freaky. I'm glad I finally woke up from all that.
Unburdened, rebar!

 

[ward]

Simone i think your really wise to get rid of facebook. It's to the point its almost becoming mandatory to belong to some sort of demi-god social network, and mandatory is where is say no way. Huge privacy issues, names and info being sold or stolen, lawyers and debt collectors using social networks to find people. No thanks, not to mention the "grass is greener" factor mentioned above, if you are happier now that your off of it then you made the right choice.

 

[mike]

Facebook is like fire, its just a tool, its how you use it thats the key,
Fire can cook your food, or burn the house down, its all about the application.
I have an account, but i dont use facebook myself.
I lost contact with my biological family many decades ago, and have no desire to re connect.
But i created the account just in case someone needs a bone marrow transplant or similiar, if some member of my bloodline really needs to track me down they can use facebook to do so.
My wife is the only freind request ive accepted.
Chat rooms ,forums and even online games can all cause the same obsession.

For me its about using the tool, not letting the tool use you

 

[hak]

I like facebook. I enjoy seeing my friends do well. I don't care if they are doing better then me, we all have our personal battles.
Though, it is very easy to get hooked at first.
Perhaps it was triggering something in your subconscious that's really bothering you and your dreams are bringing it to the surface.

 

[Simone_m]

Yeah mike, I think that tool is not for everyone. It looked to me like something good for those who need to promote a book or radio show. Nothing wrong with that! I had nothing to promote. I find that chat forums like this'un are my cup of tea.
hak, I have a --lot-- of things in my subconscious that I'm certain are bothering me, I'm a real mess. Probably why I have such lucid dreaming often, in general.

 

[hak]

When I went through some therapy known as EMDR I would have the most vivid dreams. I often find my dreams will send me messages in times of trouble We are all a mess.

 

[Randall]

I dumped my Facebook account a long time ago and have never looked back. Never liked Zuckerberg's character much in the movie Social Network either, and never liked much how he sucked out a huge amount of his employees investment value for himself when the company went public, or how gleefully the company is used by employers and other "agencies" to profile people in order to determine if they deserve a job or to be investigated instead. Gee too bad his recent satellite blew-up on the launch pad ...

Aww did Zuckies rocket go boom boom ...​

And no the birds are not UFOs and they didn't blow up the rocket because
why would they do that when Zuckerbergs one of them? He can deny
it all he wants but everyone knows he's a reptilian ... LOL​