@Burnt State - you've asked about experiences I've had that might have sensitized me to women's issues and mental health issues ...
and
@manxman you've stated a couple of times that the white man is afraid of the black man ...
... so I want to give a little more information about growing up for you both, then I'll specifically address the two issues you ask about Burnt in another post.
A gentleman brought a picture in to the library where I work to have a photo copy made ... it was a newspaper clipping from my high school but about ten years before my time - probably the best basketball team the school ever fielded ... the core of this team went on to play at the small liberal arts school where my Dad taught. This brought up some memories for me.
My dad was the athletic representative for the school, he'd been an athlete himself - football, basketball and track and measured and ran the first official marathon in our state. He took an interest in the athletes during his time at the school and I remember this group of guys in particular, probably because they were around the house a lot when I was growing up. Most were African American and all were first generation college students. So my Dad worked with them in mathematics as well as academic planning, financial and career planning.
These guys taught me how to play basketball, high jump (one of them set a record with a 7 foot plus (2.13 meter) high jump) - worked with me on my running form, etc. I enjoyed being around them, they were positive and good role models for me.
So, a few things I can tell you
@manxman:
The biggest guy on the team, by a wide margin, was Caucasian, he was every bit of six feet, nine inches in height (2.06 meters) and built to scale - as in, like an Ox. I can picture him standing in front of the door frame, to obscure same. I'm wondering if he ever met the man, regardless of hue, that he feared?
And, by the way ... the largest men I've ever seen have all been Caucasian - a seven footer in Germany, some guy walking down the street in Europe who had to be a meter wide - and a man in a pizza restaurant here in my state. I told my buddy, that guy is 350lbs without trying - we were trying to see what was in his hand and then realized it was a cigarette ... when he stood up he was just shy of the ceiling and I re estimated him at around 450 - in other word, about the size of another Caucasian - Andre the Giant. Only,
lean.
OK, so the best ball handler on the team, by an equally wide margin, was African American and stood every bit of
five feet nine inches (ok, eight) (1.73 meters) and I saw him dribble the ball between the other players legs and ... on one memorable occasion,
dunk the ball. A 40 inch (1.02 meter) vertical leap in his prime.
But you know who else is 1.73 meters tall and has a 36 inch (0.9 meter) vertical leap?
This guy ... only he weighs 350 lbs (159 kilos) ... and can you spot one other difference?
A couple other memories. When I was 8, Dino De Laurentis'
King Kong came out and my Dad and me and the guy I mentioned above, the outstanding ball player, African American, all went to the movies and when Kong died I cried and I cried and this young man pulled me up on his lap and gave me a hug and told me it would be ok. He
didn't say "be a man" or "don't be a baby".
Last thing - his dad always came to see him play and was always drunker'n Cooter Brown, that's what we said then ... and he clowned in the stands but this young man never turned his back on his father, never acted ashamed ... he always went over to him after the game and shook his hand and thanked him for coming.
So, I guess that's why I don't fear the black man. And it doesn't prove a thing ... all of these could be exceptional experiences that prove the rule or you may have some rationale as to why they don't apply, but they affected me and my outlook and I think for the better.